By Malia Lane
That’s usually the second question I get asked after people find out I’m a single woman full time RVer. The first is “What gave you the idea to do something like that?” I can answer both questions with one scenario. Picture being beside the death bed of someone you love and finding out they are full of regrets, wanting just one more day to do some of the things that their heart has always dreamed of but had always postponed. But they’re leaving their lives alone with many wishes unfulfilled. How lonely is that?
Solitude is completely distinct from loneliness. Sometimes when I am unaccompanied is when I feel the most connected to everyone and everything around me. One Fall I was at a park taking pictures of a blue lake and orange trees. The ground beneath me felt soft, spongy and alive. The falling leaves were vibrating and the rustling of the bird feathers were in perfect sync with the beating of my heart. I was experiencing solitude but with such a connection to everything around me, no way that could be described as being lonely.
In solitude you can see how much alike we are. But I have felt lonely in a room full of people. I say share your dreams with another when you can, but don’t let the fear of being alone stop you from living them.
Original article as told to RVtravel.com: Women RVers: Malia’s Miles
Malia Lane has been a solo fulltime RVer since 2001 and has published her journal, “Inspiration’s Journey” at MaliasRV.com. She has a site MaliasMiles.com as an “information service for RVers by a fulltime RVer.” Enjoy her stories, ventures and recommendations!
From her website:
What is Malia’s Miles?
After I had been solo fulltime RVing for a few years, I wanted more information than I could find at the time about places I wanted to explore and potential campground home bases. I wanted to see more than the glossy pictures from the campgrounds – I wanted details and differences in loops and sites, what are the best sites and why, and what is interesting to do close by. Since I enjoy collecting and sharing this kind of information, I began Malia’s Miles in 2005. I also like how Maliasmiles all written together could be seen as Malia Smiles. I think that’s pretty cool! ?